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The Sacredness of Sushi

SushiI love sushi.  I tried it for the first time with my husband a little over a year ago.  He thought it would be fun to try something new on my birthday.  I was very skeptical but took one bite and fell head over heals in love - with the sushi that is.  It was a thrill!  I do not eat sushi all the time but I eat it enough that it no longer feels special.  It has gone the way of most things in my life which is to say it has become a fairly ordinary activity.

As you may recall from my post, What Would Grandma Do For Fun, I manage to go to a restaurant or order take out at least once a week.  That feels like a lot when I see it in print.  I do not even want to think about how many times my husband or I grab a coffee to go in a given week but I am afraid I am going to have to.   

According to David Bach, author of Go Green, Live Rich, ”Americans spend over $134 billion a year on fast food.”  He goes on to say that packaging from take out food results in 1.8 million tons of trash in the U.S. alone every year.  And then there is all of that lovely coffee I enjoy drinking from various coffee houses around town.  Bach writes, “Every year, Americans drink more than 100 billion cups of coffee.  Of these, 14.4 billion are served in disposable paper cups, enough to wrap the Earth 55 times if placed end to end!  Plus, those paper cups contain a plastic lining made from a petrochemical that would produce enough energy to heat 8,300 homes for a year.”  I have a plastic trash bag full of take out coffee cups sitting in my van right now.  I used to think I could recycle them but probably not because of that “petrochemical” coating.

My friend Lavonne shared the following story about her mom in a comment to What Would Grandma Do For Fun?  “My mom would look forward to going to the county fair once a year because her parents would buy the kids a corn dog.  She looked forward to this corn dog all year because it was the only time her family ‘went out’ to eat.”  I bet Lavonne’s mom ate that corn dog very slowly, savoring each and every piece, not letting a single crumb fall to the floor.  That was one sacred corn dog!

Each of my grandparents confirmed that going out to eat was a special treat that really only occurred once they were young adults and were starting families of their own.  They never recall going out to eat when they were children.  I am sure this was true of most people who lived through the Great Depression.  And they never, ever would have dreamed of ordering a four dollar latte.  Come to think of it, I never would have thought of ordering a four dollar latte just 10 years ago.  I am sure the statistics on take out containers and disposable coffee cups would have looked very different in the 1930’s and 40’s!

I want to use my year of living like Grandma to help me make the act of eating sushi feel sacred - just like when Lavonne’s mom ate that corn dog so many years ago.

When something is sacred, it is special.  It is given a place of honor and deemed worthy of respect.  I will never be able to capture that special thrill I felt when I ate sushi for the first time but it can feel more special, more sacred if I choose to eat it less frequently.  And if I eat out less, order in less and give up my expensive lattes, not only will sushi (and pizza and coffee) feel special again, I will also be taking a few big steps toward living more sustainably and simply.

So here is my next Grandma Challenge.  For the remainder of my year of living like Grandma (which officially ends on June 23, 2009), I am not going to eat out or order in unless there is a truly special reason.  I will make an exception on the rare occasion that my husband’s parents offer to take me and my family out to eat.  I also will not prohibit my kids from eating out when they spend time with friends or family.

Disposable food packagingI am also going to give up coffee purchased in to go cups.  From now on, I will brew my coffee at home and tote it with me in my own stainless steel mug.  If by chance I need to meet up with someone at a restaurant, I will allow myself to buy coffee but only if I can get it in a ceramic mug or use my travel mug.  I will buy a plain cup of coffee, not a fancy latte.

Do you want to join me for this Grandma Challenge? Why or why not?  You do not have to give up all three things - eating out, ordering in and coffee to go.  You can pick one or two.  You can also decide to abstain for a shorter period of time versus a whole year.  Any duration of abstaining from something can help you step back and gain a different perspective.  I read a great little book last year called, Give It Up: My Year of Learning to Live Better With Less by Mary Carlomagno.  The author picked one thing to give up each month for one year.  It is a great way to experiment with living more sustainably and simply!

The little picture above is of some items I bought today for myself and my kids from a wonderful local bakery.  We usually do this at least one to two times a month (at my suggestion because I need want coffee).  It may not seem like a lot of waste but when you consider a bunch of people doing it one to two times a month it quickly adds up to those statistics I quoted earlier!

Is That the Best I Can Do?

Bar Soap?  Is that the best I can do?

I am barely a month into this journey and I already feel easily discouraged.  I want to make all of these changes over night.  I want them to happen quickly…not one bar of soap at a time. 

However, I am trying to make changes only as I am able to write about them.  Writing paces me and helps me process the impact of each change.  Writing forces me to go slowly even though it may feel frustrating.  I hope a slower pace will allow me to maintain each change.

In the meantime, I thought it would help if I wrote out a list of things I would like to accomplish this year as I learn to live like Grandma.  This is not an exhaustive list but a start.  Yikes!

Adopt a general attitude of “Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”
Can or freeze and store as much food as possible
Eat seasonally, eat locally
Maintain my garden and prepare for next year
Compost
No eating out or ordering in
Make homemade versions of our favorites - pizza dough, bread, tortillas, etc.
Cloth napkins - no paper towel
Find a coffee percolator
No microwave
Use fewer small appliances in general
Save and reuse as much as possible
Learn to fix broken items
Hang dry my clothes all year
Cloth diapers
No new clothes for me or my hubby
Buy clothes from resale shops for my kids
Use hankies for cold and flu season
Homemade laundry soap
Homemade cleaners
Homemade hair and beauty products
Safety razor or straight razors for shaving
No make-up or less with minimal packaging
No nail polish or other chemical based products
No hair dryer or straight iron
Use less water and use leftover water
Use less toilet paper
Follow the rule, “If it’s yellow, let it mellow, if it’s brown, flush it down.”
Use a Diva cup - not disposable tampons or pads
Gas free lawn care
Paint my walls with low or no VOC paint
No movies or TV (for me)
Choose quiet over the radio
Walk more
Drive less 

Some of you may already do many of the things listed above, some of you may do a few and some may do none at all.  If you already do something, then teach me how to do it, if you want to learn something new, try it with me, and if you are too overwhelmed, think about things you can do in the future.  No judgment here.  This is a movement toward a more sustainable and simple lifestyle.  I do not think I will ever declare that I have arrived.  I hope I will always be moving forward no matter how slow - two steps forward, one step back.

I am reading a book by Anne Lamott called, Bird by Bird.  It is a how-to book on writing but I think the following words really relate to my Grandma journey:

E.L. Doctorow once said that ‘writing a novel is like driving a car at night.  You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.’ You don’t have to see where you’re going, you don’t have to see your destination or everything you will pass along the way.  You just have to see two or three feet ahead of you.  This is right up there with the best advice about writing, or life, I have ever heard.”

And that is how my journey feels.  I feel like I am driving in the dark.  But if I steadily move forward I know I will cover significant distance over the coming year.  I hope I will be surprised at how far I have come when I look back.

Do you have any suggestions?  Is there anything you think I should learn to do like Grandma (or Grandpa)?

Help - My Soap Is Getting Messy!

messy soapMy bar soap is getting messy but not in the way I expected.  I need your help on behalf of the wonderful soap makers I recently met thanks to my bar soap challenge.

Soap makers, Joy at Kinderhaven Farms and Heidi at Vintage Fresh Soaps and Sundries, both mentioned an act that is going before Congress called the Globalization Act of 2008.  It would impose disabling fees and paperwork on the owners of small soap and cosmetics companies to the point that most of them will be put out of business.

If you want to learn more, visit the Indie Business blog started by Donna Maria Coles Johnson.  She is truly inspiring.

Take a moment to watch her video.  But most importantly, sign her petition against the Globalization Act by scrolling to the bottom of the comments section and writing a simple sentence such as, “I do not support the Globalization Act of 2008!”  Leave your name with your comment as your signature to the petition.

I can’t ignore the fact that my new soap friends may be put out of business.  I want to do all I can to support them.  Their mess is now my mess. 

Speaking of soap.

Thank you to everyone who took time to write comments to my first Grandma Challenge called Give Up Your Soap.  Your tips will be very helpful. 

I felt so proud of myself as I replaced my liquid soap pumps with beautiful smelling bars of locally made soap only to be humbled by how difficult a seemingly simple challenge can be.

As soon as I posted my soap challenge, I got off my computer and excitedly instructed my three kiddos on how to wash their hands with bar soap.  My 4-year old son, Jude, quickly discovered the easiest way to hold a slippery bar of soap was to cram it against his shirt as he attempted to twirl it around in his hands.  His shirt was a soapy mess but he didn’t care.  I had to laugh, shrug my shoulders, and be glad that he smelled good which is not always the case.

All that to say, when I post a Grandma Challenge, I want to hear your tips, stories, thoughts and anything in between.  I especially want to know if you think a particular challenge sounds too difficult or just plain ole crazy.  Tell me what you agree with as well as what you disagree with.  It will help me think about each topic from every possible angle.  I am only one person and so I can’t do that on my own.  Your comments really help and keep me going!

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